Performance anxiety is a fear we usually associate with men. But women can be equally nervous about sex. Especially since many of us have self-image issues. This can become a block to the spontaneous flow of sexual feelings and actions.
Obviously, you will not be able to have fun. “In addition to this, performance anxiety can result in avoidance of sexual encounters, lowered self-esteem, relation discord and sexual dysfunction,” says Dr N Bakshi, a sexologist. Here are five easy ways you can get rid of your concerns:
Have a drink
Alcohol lowers your inhibitions and relieves your mind of the pressure to perform in bed. Just make sure you do not drink so much that you pass out in the middle of the act. That is not going to make your partner happy.
If the two of you spend some more time getting comfortable with each other and each other’s bodies, you will be able to focus on the pleasure instead of your issues. Try showering together, give each other massages – basically, explore each other’s bodies.
Take a trip
Use a holiday to increase intimacy between you and your partner. Do things that both of you find relaxing. Once you are more comfortable with each other, you will find that getting intimate with each other becomes easier and more natural too.
Find new locations
Don’t restrict sex to the bedroom. Try other locations in or outside your house. This way, the focus is more on the place and less on you. We recommend the dining table, a swimming pool, your bathtub or even your couch. At the end of the day, all you need to do is relax.
Learn to enjoy this wonderful experience with your partner.